...is a heartbreaking matter, isn't it. It can occur for a number of reasons...being made to feel worthless, inferior, different, inadequate, misunderstood...whatever. And whether it happens often or is a fleeting experience, it still hurts the same.
It can happen to anyone really...young, old, typical or differently-abled. As folks of differently-abled children, we tend to find ourselves more often than not grappling with society's general intolerance of different when our hearts' treasures are treated unkindly, perhaps even with a tinge of self-righteousness (my way is better), purely because they behave/communicate/function in a way that is, for them, the best possible way to cope and meet their challenges but not what their peers are familiar with.
And just as our kiddies adapt each to their unique journey, so do we as their folks, right? Some folks are empowered, filled with passion to change the world, out there advocating and shouting from the rooftops. Some are a little more subdued, are too filled with passion but simply to carry their family through each day without surrendering and struggle to merely see life passed the rooftops. Some stagger drunkedly (not literally) between the two. Are any of these the more appropriate/accepted/superior approach? Is there an appropriate/accepted/superior approach? If there is, please do point me in the direction of its creator as I desperately need to take notes.
And yet...every now and again, when and where you least expect it, a little quirp...an innocent utterance happens. A comment beginning with "Well I personally don't believe this-and-this but instead prefer that-and-that" or something to the likes of such. Sometimes it's far more aggressive, unguarded disdain for a question posed on a forum, a link shared on a social network. Could it be? Is it AT ALL possible that sometimes, oh very very occasionally, us mature, adept and informed adults might too frolick a little in the pool of intolerance and hautiness? Oh, have no fear, my pedestal of self-righteousness has crumbled to the floor as I most certainly have allowed myself at times to think "That's not how I would have done it..."
I posted a pretty harsh comment on FB recently after a few of our RTS kiddo's found themselves victim to varying degrees of, well, discrimination. (Hey, when it's one of your own, the gloves come off!) But in hindsight wondered how challenging it must be for children to practice complete acceptance and open-mindedness if us as parents, leading our children by example, struggle sometimes too :)